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How to: Resolve recurring conflict

Why this happens

Recurring conflict usually rides on predictable triggers, unmet needs, and stories about intent. When people do not feel heard or values and boundaries are vague, the same pattern repeats across conversations.

What usually helps

Map the trigger pattern, create a safe space to be heard, and clarify values and boundaries before proposing solutions. The recommended starters use pattern recognition, holding space, and values clarification to reduce reactivity and align on what matters.

Suggested topics

Pick one of the discussion topics below to start a session with a coach.

Recognize recurring emotional patterns

Mina Park

This exploration helps you detect recurring feeling-trigger loops and understand their roots. By recognizing patterns, you'll gain more choice in how you respond to emotional triggers.
I react [emotion] when [situation]. Map patterns and roots.

Be heard without judgment or advice

Mina Park

This minimal, empathy-focused space lets you share and be heard without analysis or advice. Sometimes the most powerful support is simply having someone truly listen.
I want a safe space to vent about [conflict] with no advice.

Discover and prioritize your core values

Sophos of Piraeus

This Socratic exploration reveals your authentic values through examining real choices. By analyzing conflicts and trade-offs, you'll create a clear hierarchy to guide decisions.
Clarify my non-negotiables and trade-offs for [relationship].